🪬🔮👸🏾 -- > THA $EXTECH $HAMAN.
[ spiritual goonery. ]
Have you ever felt like the sexual wellness industry wasn’t built to cater to your unique cultural needs?
Do you suffer from generational trauma pertaining to sexual abuse that hasn’t been addressed when it comes to sexual healing?
Have you been investing in the pleasure of others more than your own and become a sexual martyr for partners that didn’t value you sexual needs?
[ tha introduction to pleasure. ]
When I was 12 years old I wanted to be a Playboy Bunny when I grew up, after watching countless hours of the Playboy Channel on stolen cable; let’s just say I understood at that point what an orgasm was and I was having multiple most days. I would imagine what it would be like to be a porn star, being the center of attention and being extremely confident and comfortable with myself.
At one point I remember having a dream that I was in the waiting room of the Playboy auditions and I was denied, which cut those dreams short; though knowing what I know now, that dream was definitely my protection from the black hole that lied beyond the curtain.
During this time I was also introduced to another avenue of arousal that really lured me in — any piece of literature by Zane. Now I don’t remember the first book I read exactly — though it might’ve been “Addicted” — that took me on an erotic journey that I could finally see myself in. At some point I also remember loving the movies “Trois: Pandora’s Box” and being obsessed with the classic “The Player’s Club.”
Street Lit was also a literary landscape that kept my attention and my panties constantly sticky & moist.
According to Kristin Corry of Vice Media, “Zane’s New York Times bestselling books, like The Sex Chronicles and Addicted, are a revered rite of passage into adulthood for many Black women—but she rarely gets mainstream recognition, despite her massive readership.”
What’s even more intriguing is how blatant it is that Black Erotica, with narratives that focus on the pleasure and sexual liberation of Black Women, have been discounted and devalued in the literary space for so long; especially as it compares to a white-centered narrative such as a “40 Shades of Grey” — as it lacks the cultural elements, sexually aspirational circumstances and spiritual awareness that Black Erotica delivers.
Fast forward to the ‘Sextech & Sexual Wellness Movement/Industry’ where it seems like this comparative analysis still holds true.
[ tha existing pleasure economy. ]
I literally had the craziest fuckin’ revelation when I stumbled upon the legitimate existence of the ‘Sextech & Sexual Wellness Movement/Industry’; to be honest it opened a portal to so many erotic possibilities in the realm of sexual healing & wellness for me as it pertains to the various mediums utilized in this sector of business.
Although this women-led space is brimming with innovation and supports my significant stellium in the 8th house of my natal chart — as it resonates with my north node in Aquarius — emphasizing my obsession with the spiritual aspects of sexual healing laced with innovative technology, there is a ridiculous lack of representation when it comes to Black Women in this sector.
According to AfroPunk, in addition to the fact that conversations surrounding all aspects of sex and its exploration is still very stigmatized within the Black community — the lack of Black and Brown faces on the digital side of sextech greatly impacts marginalized groups, stifles innovation within the industry, and also impacts the amount of funding Black people receive in the industry.
This heavy debilitation in the sextech & sexual wellness space muffles Black women’s authentic voices, perspectives & narratives of our sexual truth; mainly pertaining to our historically neglected sexual trauma, stigmatized shame, stereotypical objectification and limited access to culturally sensitive support services focused on our sexual healing, wellness & liberation.
[ tha reclamation of our sexuality. ]
Although Black Women are usually exiled from high value conversations surrounding Sextech and Sexual Wellness, we have been the focus of hyper-sexualization for centuries, in addition to our Ancestors often being ritualistically raped and forced to breed children that they were then ripped away from.
Fast forward to the legions of Black Women flying out of the country to risk their lives and have their bodies sliced open for Brazilian Butt Lifts (BBL’s) or going to sketchy-ass basements in the hood for toxic butt injections in order to attract the lust of men who may never love them; becoming a caricature of themselves in the public eye — suffering as victims of the trends that they once set.
That part.
As I set my sights on the ‘Sextech & Sexual Wellness Movement/Industry’ I see the opportunity to heal, inspire and re-instill Black Women’s Body Positivity — regardless of their make — as well as their confidence, self-esteem and self-love.
On an even deeper spiritual level, reseting our collective root chakra is the greater necessity; being able to truly connect the energies of creativity and sexuality that sit at our sacral chakra is my mission in this space.
On a doper level, honoring the many facets of Black Femininity through the mediums of Black Style & Culture, Sensual Sexuality and Ancestral Spirituality in this space turns me the fuck on — especially due to the unconventional and taboo nature of it all, which is why I believe that this work is a huge part of my spiritual mission in this lifetime; allowing myself the freedom and space to get all my creative shit off, unapologetically & unfiltered.
Are you interested in exploring or being catered to by this industry?
CITED:
Corry, K. (2022, September 21). Erotica is still not ready for Black Women. VICE. https://www.vice.com/en/article/qjkz9w/audio-erotica-black-stories-dipsea-diversity-problem