Have you ever come face to face with the sexual underworld of American Culture?
Have you ever heard of or experienced the very controversial kink of “Race Play”?
Have you ever felt justified in being labeled as an “Angry Black Woman,” but didn’t have a satisfying outlet for expressing that very real rage?
[ tha basics of race play. ]
According to Masterclass.com, a Kink is “a sexual behavior or practice that falls outside of standard sexual practices.”
When it comes to the kink of ‘Race Play,’ according to The Grio, “Race Play is a form of consensual sexual role-playing in which the actual, perceived or assumed racial, ethic or national identities of the participants is specifically the focus of the scene.”
In most cases, ‘Race Play’ is usually depicted in the narrative of degrading Blackness with the N-word and slave/master role-play with white and other POC.
The gag is that ‘Race Play’ scenarios rarely mention the reverse power dynamic; especially when it comes to Black Women in the Dominant power position, which is a dynamic that’s intrigued me very much since I first began researching kinks & fetishes while working as a virtual dominatrix and phone sex operator.
Since 2022, I’ve had multiple experiences within the realm of “Race Play,” from multiple perspectives of interaction and observation since I dove head first into phone sex, being a dominatrix and exploring the kink community overall.
Mistress Marley — a dope Black Financial Dominatrix who walks white men on leashes and demands that they pay her reparations — was my first inspiration & observation of a Black Woman taking her power in her hands without apology and sitting on her throne — in her natural sultry energy; utilizing ‘Race Play’ to her advantage.
[ tha root (chakra) of american hate. ]
Since I began work in this space, I have come into contact with so many different perspectives in the use of the N-Word in Race Play, which I know goes so much deeper than what it’s portrayed as.
I didn’t realize the amount of use cases and client segments that indulge in this very prevalent fetish of hate.
A few that I’ve encountered include the following:
The Common Deep-Rooted Racist — Quick to say the N-Word, but once you let it be known you don’t tolerate that or you tell them “Don’t say N****” — they quickly hang up like the cowards they are. But these are the type of people who secretly admire the BBC and are jealous of it.
The Covert Deep-Rooted Racist — Yearns to say the N-Word, but if you tell them not to they will oblige, though they still want some sort of power in the dynamic.
Black Men Turned On By Being a Slave — They may want to be locked in a cage while a White Women Calls them the N-Word; wanting to be abused and degraded.
White Sissies who inhale BBC’s — Recollection of a White male — past client — who loves choking and gagging on his neighbors BBC, even though he’s married & his wife knows all about it; [side note — when he and his wife went to a hot tub get together at this Black neighbor’s house, both were staring at their neighbor’s huge d*** through his swimming trunks.]
These…in addition to the White Racists & Violent Pedophiles who are scared of their own shadow and White Sissies that Worship Black Women in every way.
Now, you can be fake outraged or you can really take a moment to understand just how baked into the roots of American society this “Hateful Kink” is; to the point that it is an ingrained sexual appetite attached to the "Race Play" kink that seeps out from the collective subconscious; highlighting the generational abuse, shame, neglect & exploitation of — in most cases — the Black Body & Black Sexuality.
The thirst and hunger that other races have when it comes to disrespecting Blackness by uttering the N-Word, in my belief, comes from the core of America’s Root Chakra; deriving from its ferocious shadow underbelly that craves violence, control, greed, rape & cannabalism — with a gaslighting culture of victim-blaming sprinkled on top.
[ in worship of tha nigga. ]
My first encounter with ‘Race Play’ was when a client was so thirsty to call me his “N***** Bitch” — that I denied my consent to — which then prompted me to ask him if calling me that made his d*** hard. He then began back pedaling a bit, to which I then asked if calling me that made his dick drip — to which he said yes. And it actually made me a little horny when he spoke his truth.
As my exploration has deepened, I’ve become privy to how sex brings out the truth and/or demons of human beings in order to satiate their most primal cravings.
The conclusion I’ve come to with the N-word is that at the root of it is an obsession; to hate that one worships black people, that one obsesses over Blackness, that one would need to consume Blackness in anyway possible — even through hate and violence at a level that arouses them enough to spill their life force — is very curious to me.
On my journey — in regard to this kink — I’ve encountered everything from a Black men wanting to be called ‘N*****’ as they role play as a slave in a cage — to Black men with a fetish for observing young Black Women being bred by old white men — to white men wanting their wives to be fucked in front of them by a Black “Buck” that mounts their wives and cums inside of them so the husband can then lick the cum off his Black d***; leaves me wondering if sexually, the ‘Nigga’ is a deity to these white heauxs out here.
Any thoughts?
BIBLIOGRAPHY:
Masterclass. (2022, May 4). Kink vs. fetish: How do they compare?. MasterClass | Articles. https://www.masterclass.com/articles/kink-vs-fetish
Alexisgarrettstodghill. (2013, April 23). Controversial letter goes viral as readers discuss “race play,” a sexual fetish involving racial slurs. TheGrio. https://thegrio.com/2013/04/22/controversial-letter-goes-viral-as-readers-discuss-race-play-a-sexual-fetish-involving-racial-slurs/